Constants- a short post on friendship

“Sometimes in life, there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.  Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.  Maybe you’ll find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding…but there’s also the chance, that the one person you can count on for a lifetime…the one person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along.”-quoted from the end of bride wars

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| Marisa Monroe and I at the park—we are soul mates |

Don’t get me wrong…my husband is my best friend and the love of my life. However, this post isn’t about my husband.  This post is for my best friends.  The gals that string the pieces of my heart together–we all have them, we call them best friends and they are the people that help me to make sense of the things in life that make my head spin.  They are the girls that understand in a way a man cant. 

Who is the person you call when the most exciting thing happens in your life?  Who is the person you tell everything to other than your significant other? 

–it’s your best friend of course.

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| Aly Fox and I at my wedding—my maid of honor and  best friend since age 10 |

I feel like we all go through this journey in life with different people by our sides.  Some of those people are constantly changing and then some of those people are just constant. 

 In high school it was back and forth over and over.  Who are my true friends that will be by my side when I’m old and my hair has gone gray? Was constantly running through my mind.  The feeling of utter betrayal when one person turned out to be different when than you thought…but that is life right? We are all constantly evolving our minds and our souls to become what we are meant to be. 

I’m sure there are people I’ve disappointed time and time again without even meaning to. And to you reading this who felt or feel that way, I’m sorry.

I love this quote, “a friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile.”- unknown origin (courtesy of Marisa Monroe)

 It’s true.  Lots of people see me smile, I have a deep love of laughter and smiling.  I only let certain people see my tears…only a handful of people know my deepest sorrows.

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| Gabrielle Rowden and I getting ready for my wedding—she brings a smile to my face constantly |

 This post is to bring recognition to those in my life that are the constants.  My lifelong soul mates who are the jelly to my peanut butter…the reason for my making it through life with just a few scrapes and bruises rather than giving up.  The ladies that have brought me back to God when I’ve been blinded by sorrow and anger.

 My constants are my life angels.  The ones who remind me that I have something to offer, the ones who make sure I never feel alone…this is for you.

 Without you, I’m not sure I would be sane.  Without you, I’m not sure I could have made it through life so far without giving up on myself. 

 Thank you my angels. Thank you for never giving up on me.  Thank you for your constant love.  Thank you for making me laugh.  Thank you for being there for me while I cry.  Thank you for being there.  Thank you for being constant.

| my greatest hope and prayer is that I give you even half of the happiness and joy you bring to my life |

 

 

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the day in which i said, “i do” | part two |

whew and just like that, in a moment all of my nerves and stress just evaporated into thin air.  i saw the man that was about to become my husband until death. that is a huge deal folks.

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i’ll never forget that moment.  the look on his face as he turned around to look at me.  the most incredible moment of my life.  we fall more in love every single day.

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you know, there’s this whole debate on whether or not you should see your groom before the wedding for pictures or not.  the whole “unlucky” superstition.  let me just say personally i wouldn’t have done it any other way.  we were able to take our pictures together before my makeup was destroyed from crying, and while my hair was still perfectly in place.  he was able to calm my nerves before the long walk down the isle (in front of a ton of people i may add) and boy, i think i would have lost it if i hadn’t seen him.  oh the nerves..gotta love the nerves.

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we got to take some beautiful pictures and have some time just the two of us –and our amazing photographers which i may end up doing a separate post about they are THAT good- we saw each other for the first time pre-wedding behind my parents house looking over the river and then continued the photo session downtown by our reception space loft 1023.

PHOTOGRAPHY: http://www.katebotwinski.com/

the day in which i said, “i do” | part one |

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this is the date that my happily ever after truly began. that day was the start of the life i’ll be living with Cooper Watts Davis until my last breath.

at 6:30 am i woke up with an ache in my tummy unable to shut my eyes again for a few more hours of sleep. I woke up and woke up my maid of honor aly. i remember her sighing and wanting to go back to sleep (who can blame her though right?) and this is when the nerves hit hard. i ended up being sick ALL morning up until the moment Cooper put his arms around me.

around 10 am, my bridal luncheon began.  let me tell you, i had the BEST bridal luncheon you could possibly imagine.  my mothers three best friends, Nancy, Holly and Tani planned it and it was AMAZING.  lots of tears were shed and advice from my wonderful grandmothers and my new grandmother in law was given and smiles were all over the place.

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my sweet bridesmaids and i got ready at my parents house and i had the best makeup artist (kakki jones) and my hair stylist, kitty, that had been doing my hair since around age ten was in charge of my crazy mane.  these ladies were incredible.  they did such a great job of pampering me and calming down my crazy nerves.

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i was honored to wear my mother-in-law’s wedding shoes from 1979.  she even still had her lucky penny from that year taped to the sole of the shoe! we added an alabama quarter (where my husband is from) and 50 euro cents (because of my love of Italy) next to her penny–my dad searched far and wide for a 2013 penny with no such luck.  apparently they hadn’t been released yet! 

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PHOTOGRAPHY: http://www.katebotwinski.com/

Love Story

Cooper and i met my junior year of high school when i thought the world would end if i had a zit and that having a boyfriend upped my cool status.  Cooper was a freshman in college and that in and of itself was major.

i went to visit my friend Mariah at the theater where she worked and a hottie in the box office caught my eye.  i of course told Mariah that i thought that boy was cute and she told me his name.  i quickly forgot about it all because at 16 what chance did i have of that cute boy liking me right?

WELL, at around 1:30 am i received a text from said boy saying, “hey kate its cooper from the theater, sup?” yes…he said “sup?”  Again at 16 what could have been cooler than this cute boy texting me no matter how ridiculous his comment was?  In a twist of events that included me not realizing who said texter was and deleting it and then figuring it out and calling my friend at the theater to tell him to text me again—one week later, this boy was my boyfriend.  i guess you could say we hit off.

Almost five years later and this guy is my husband, the ying to my yang, the fred to my wilma, the gil to my anne, the ron to my hermione, the romeo to my juliet—you get the picture.

We have since been through long distance, wedding planning while in college, a wedding, being separated due to basic training, being separated due to tech school,  the excitement of finding out we were having a baby, a move cross country, and the heartbreak of losing our baby as I was entering my second trimester.  Through it all, Cooper is my constant rock and source of joy.  This man completes me.  This man knows me better than anyone.  This man is the love of my life and I thank God for him constantly.